With my recent purchase of Netflix, i've been watching The Hills, non-stop.  And it brings up a lot of key points that people struggle with in relationships. I won't go into details here about the specifics of The Hills, but I will discuss of the main point. That main point is....

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BROS BEFORE HOES​

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I think a lot of people once they get into a serious relationship, loose sight of who their friends are.  They stop attending events with friends, stop returning calls, never reach out to their friends etc. I'm sure you know people who fall into this category. The problem is once you ignore your friends, and stop reaching out, those friends are just going to give up on you. This can be a major problem when shit hits the fan. For example, you get in a fight with your significant other, and have no one to turn to for help. Or you want to celebrate a major event in your life, promotion at work, engagement etc, and theres no one to help celebrate with you. The worst is when someone stops talking to their friends, but once they become single, they are all about you again and want things to be back to the way they were. For me, at least that shit doesn't fly. The only way thats ok is if the person recognizes what they did wrong, owns up to it and apologizes. If someone cannot recognize what they did, then its hard to forgive. 

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I get that a lot of time your significant other becomes your best friend, but I've always & firmly believe that you still need other friends outside of the relationship.  There is a way to balance friends & relationships, it can be difficult at times but it can be done. Some ways to ensure you have a balance between friends & relationships is to have a group outing. Meaning your friends, your significant other & their friends. That way all the people who are important to both of you, are there in 1 place. I know people who don't like having separate friend time & separate partner time. So this would be the perfect option if your someone thats like that. Or the other choice is have separate friend & partner time. I know people who feel like the dynamic is different with their significant other is out with their group of friends. So this way there is no awkward dynamic. A similar thing is to have a set day a week where you only do stuff with your friends or partner. But the key to the success of this is to stick with it and be consistent.  Anyway you want to do it, as long as you balance it you'll be all set. 





As always comments/feedback/opinions are always appreciated! :-)



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